I've begun to recognize through some things I've been reading, that I would identify three stages of attraction. The first is initial attraction, creating the first spark. The second stage is developing or increasing the attraction. Think of it as kindling the initial spark into a full fire. The third stage then is maintaining the attraction, or keeping the fire going once it's already started. I believe I have the most trouble with the first stage. I think I'd be pretty good at two and three, though I guess I don't know for sure, and sometimes doubt these too.